At some point, everyone is going to leave. This is a lie that many of us believe. Because of a number of my experience growing up, I bought into this lie for many years. In fact, it was only a few years ago that I realized that I was living out this paradigm. As I took a deeper look at the implication of this lie, I realized the impact that this way of think was having on my relationships with others. For instance, I looked back at my dating relationships from college. I had a pattern of being in a different relationship every 3 to 6 months. Once a relationship would get to a certain place of vulnerability, I would be out. I subconsciously decided that once I got to a certain level of closeness within a dating relationship I had to end it before the girl did. Something in me believed that she would eventually leave, so I had to choose to get out before the inevitable would happen.
Believing this lie keeps us from really giving ourselves to any relationship, including our relationship with God. We believe that at some point we will be left all alone, so we better not give ourselves fully to any relationship. The result of this is that we end of isolating ourselves from true community and intimacy with others. Deut 31:8 tells us very clearly, “The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” This is incredibly good news if we will let ourselves believe it, I mean really believe it and live today with this truth. Since I began believing this truth a few years ago, my relationship with God and with others has been exponentially better. I now enter into friendships with a belief that God has great things in store for both of us as we seek to navigate our way through life. There is great freedom in dispelling this lie and truly giving myself to relationship with God and others.
Lie: At some point everyone is going to leave and I will be left all alone
Truth: God created us for intimate relationship with himself and others.
“”Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” (Heb 13:5)