FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL
Our mind plays many tricks on us when it comes to fear. We run scenarios in our head about how a situation or relationship will turn out if we don’t control them. At our core, we don’t believe it is possible to live the life we desire by simply allowing things to happen. I am not talking about being assertive in a situation or relationship. Being assertive is a great quality. What I am talking about is expectation. We set an expectation in our mind about how a situation or relational moment should play out, and we can’t stomach how bad we will feel if our expectations are not met. At this point, the only option is control. The irony is that by controlling a person or situation we can’t ever have our desires truly met. Our deepest desires are for attention, acceptance and affection. Only by surrendering these desires can we ever hope to have these desires met.