Finding the Father

Our 5 year-old daughter Hadassah, our youngest, finds me in the morning. Most mornings of the week I leave the house early before our kids awake, but on the weekend Hadassah wakes up first and she finds me. I have a few places I like to sit in the house. She looks for me, finds me, crawls into my lap and sits there in my arms. (I know, she’s 5 it surprises me too that she just sits there for a while)

Each morning Hadassah finds me she enters into my morning ritual of sitting with the Father. It has become my favorite thing to do. To sit, to listen, to be still. So I sit there with the Father and in comes my daughter to sit with her father. I promise I am not making this up to make a point or be poetic, or give a visual of what is offered to us each morning through a growing intimate relationship with God the Father. I am just letting you in on what is happening, real time, in my own life and in the life of our youngest daughter.

If you have young kids chances are you are experiencing or have experienced the joy and exhaustion of young kids wanting as much face time with you as possible. They will take as much as they can get. Especially that one-on-one, on the floor down on their level, playing the games they choose. Or the time right before bed when they ask for one more story, one more song, one more kiss.

It’s hard to imagine sometimes but it is true, in fact the truest reality there is, that you and I have a Father who can’t get enough of us. He is with us, giving us as much time and attention as we want. And his favorite time is that one-on-one, on the floor down on our level, playing the games we choose. And somehow, in a mysterious way you are his favorite one.





From a Good Idea Toward Action

In my last post I pointed out that I noticed something new in the story of the father and two son’s in the Gospel of Luke. The statement, “He got the the point,” stood out. It happened to me again this morning as I kept reading that same story.

“Then he came to his senses and cried aloud, ‘Why, dozens of my father’s hired men have got more food than they can eat and here I am dying of hunger! I will get up and go back to my father, and I will say to him, “Father, I have done wrong in the sight of Heaven and in your eyes. I don’t deserve to be called your son any more. Please take me on as one of your hired men.”’ (Luke 15:18)

The son had an idea, an ah ha of sorts. As I imagine the posture of this young man, desperate and out of options, feeling at the end of himself I wonder if he ran scenarios through his head the way I do. I often think, ok this isn’t working, I wonder if this would. Surely if I do this it will help the situation. Rarely does it help. Returning to this story with this son it seems like of the the things he came up with was, “Oh I’ve got it! I will get up and go back to my father… that’s what I’ll do. I’ll prepare a speech and go, that’s a great idea!”

Here is the new learning for me this morning, it’s in the following verse. Jesus, as the narrator of the story says this about the son, “So he got up and went to his father.” There it is, action. True repentence: re-evaluation that leads to action. The son didn’t just come up with the idea to go to the father, or consider it enough that he knew what would be best for him at the moment, to go to the father. No, this son actually got up and went to the father.

Chances are if you are reading this blog you know how the story ends, you know the fathers reaction. It’s remarkable to say the least. You and I have access to that same reaction, that same love as we move from time with the Father being a good idea toward physically, actually getting up and going to the Father. We are his sons and daughters after all.


Have You Gotten To The Point?

Jesus tells a story in Luke 15 about two sons. It might be familiar to you. One of the sons decides to move away from one thing in his life and move toward another. This one decision changes the course of this son’s life.

After demanding his inheritance from his Father, something that would have been implausible in the Jewish culture, the son leaves home and spends all of his money on wild living. After his money runs out, the son eventually gets hired on with a pig farmer, possibly the most humiliating job for a Jewish son. Check out Jesus’ words as he tells the next part of the story, “He got to the point of longing to stuff himself with the food the pigs were eating and not a soul gave him anything.” (v16)

From privilege and wealth to poverty and pig slop. Young Literal Translation translates Jesus’ words this way, “And having come to himself…” I like to think that this young man comes to the end of himself and realizes something has to change. He gets to the point where life is not working the way he planned, so he decides to return to his father. He moves away from doing life on his own, and moves toward home, not knowing what is waiting for him there.

Have you gotten to the point? Is what you are doing in your life working? Are you trying to do life on your own? The son in this story  longs to stuff himself with pig slop, but he knows that, even in his deep hunger, the food will not satisfy. Only one thing curbs our longing, and it’s actually not a thing at all; it’s a return to the Father.


Only Two Primary Relationships

I believe there are only two primary relationships for each person on earth. Every other relationship is secondary. Want to guess what they are before you keep reading? In my 43 years of life I am now more convinced than ever that the two primary relationships in a persons life are relationship with Creator, and relationship with self.

The word primary suggests that something is important and worthy of time and attention. If these two relationships are, in fact, the two primary relationships in life, do they get the attention they deserve? Think about it. We have access to an ongoing growing relationship with the one who created us! In fact, the deepest intimacy that we can experience as a human being is being (that’s not a mistake use of the word being twice, we aren’t human doings) in relationship with God the Father. Jesus himself considered his relationship with God the Father as primary and so can we.

On to the second primary relationship in our lives, relationship with ourselves. Developing a growing relationship with ourselves may sound selfish at first glance, but let’s unpack it. Brene’ Brown says this about love: “Love is not something that we give or get, it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them. We can only love others as much as we love ourselves.” (Men, Women and Worthiness)

Jesus said it this way, “… love your neighbor as yourself”, implying that a person will love and care for his or herself first before he or she attempts to care for anyone else. So, as the Lenten season begins you might consider asking yourself how you are doing in these two primary relationships in your life. Maybe what you want to move away from is making other relationships (or things) primary, and move toward these two relationships with God and yourself.


Moving Away/ Moving Toward: Ash Wed

You may have seen my post yesterday with the invitation during the next six weeks of Lent to ask yourself two questions:

What do I want to move away from? What do I want to move toward?

As mentioned, these two questions were asked of me and a few friends last fall, and the practical action of moving away and moving toward has had noticeable impact. Tina Sellers, who lead us through these two questions on a couples weekend, provides a little more clarity “What thoughts, actions, beliefs, habits inhibit you from giving and receiving love the way you would like?” (move away) Tina went on to say, “What do you want to be more of, grow more into, believe about yourself? (moving toward)

Here are a few examples:

I want to move away from worry. I want to move toward believing that God has me.

I want to move away from screens. I want to move toward face-to-face relationships.

I want to move away from being stoic. I want to move toward allowing myself to feel.

I want to move away from distraction. I want to move toward being present wherever I am.

In asking these two questions of myself it was helpful to take 30 minutes with each question over two days, ask the Lord and write out what came to mind. The season of Lent is a great opportunity to ask these questions of yourself. You might be surprised by the impact this can have in your own life.



What Do You Want to Move Away From? Lent 2017

What if in the next 6 weeks you could make noticeable progress in moving away from that thing in your life that you keep returning to that bogs you down. You know the thing. It’s a mindset, self-talk, a “loop” if you will, that you find yourself returning to again and again. Occasionally you feel relief, but eventually you end up back in that same lane. The lane has become a rut and you end up back where you hoped you would never return again.

It is possible to move away from that way of thinking that often gets you down, and move toward living more in the way you long to live. In the fall of 2016 my wife Anna and I spent a weekend with three other couples and Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD exploring two questions: What do you want to move away from? What do you want to move toward? Each individual and couple was invited to spend time with these two questions prior to our weekend together. It turned out to be a fascinating exercise for us all. I’ll be sharing about my answer to these two questions during the next few weeks of the season of Lent.

Lent begins tomorrow (Ash Wedndesday). It is a perfect time to think about the thing in your life you want to move away from.  That is what Jesus was inviting people into when he made his first recorded speech, “…repent and believe in the gospel.” (Mark 1:15) The word, μετανοέω, is the invitation to re-think your life, to re-evaluate, take action and go a different way. Repent, μετανοέω was never about being sorry for something or asking for forgiveness only. μετανοέω along with the season of Lent is an opportunity to re-think, take action and go a different way. And it’s possible for you!

During these next six weeks leading up to Easter you can identify what you want to move away from and actually begin to move.


Advent Week 4: God loves his body

On this final week of advent I am interested in the body of Jesus. “8pound, 6-ounce, newborn infant Jesus, don’t even know a word yet…”(Talledega Nights) Yeah, that Jesus. Baby Jesus grew up to be a man in a body. Why did God choose to come in the form of a human in the skin of a body? I came across something this morning that I had never noticed before.

33 “No one takes a lamp and puts it in a cupboard or under a bucket, but on a lamp-stand, so that those who come in can see the light. 34The lamp of your body is your eye. When your eye is sound, your whole body is full of light, but when your eye is evil, your whole body is full of darkness. 35So be very careful that your light never becomes darkness. 36For if your whole body is full of light, with no part of it in shadow, it will all be radiant—it will be like having a bright lamp to give you light.” (Luke 11:33-36)

In order to get a better grasp on the gravity of Jesus’ words about the physical body, it may be helpful to look at his teaching in this order:

vs. 34 – Your whole body is full of light

vs. 35 – so be very careful that your light never becomes darkness

vs. 33 – don’t put it (your body) in a cupboard or under a bucket, but (put your body)on a lampstand SO THAT others who come in (spouse, children, extended family, friends, everyone you encounter) can see the light! (Others get to experience the Gospel by us putting our bodies on a lampstand)

Now this is where is gets really good, at least for me:

vs 34(a) – the lamp of your body is your eye (what you see when you look at your body in the mirror)

vs 34 (b) – when your eye is sound (ἁπλοῦς) – this greek word can be translated as “not complicated or confused”, so when your eye is not complicated or confused about what it is seeing in the mirror then “your whole body is full of light”

vs 34 (c) – when your eye is evil (believes the lies the evil one tells you about your own body) your whole body is full of darkness


IF your whole body is full of light (you believe the truth that your body is created by God, that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and that your body is worth caring about)


IF you are willing to put “no part of it in the shadow” (v36)


IT WILL ALL (your whole body) BE RADIANT! This is how God the Father viewed Jesus as he came into the world, and how the Father viewed him the whole time Jesus walked around in his body. This is how God the Father views you and me too.

Jesus understood this reality about his body well. So did David…

For you created my inmost being;

you knit me together in my mother’s womb.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;

your works are wonderful,

I know that full well. (Ps 139:13-14)



Advent Week 3: Mary Believed…Do You?

Mary’s level of belief somehow seems to keep increasing! After her encounter with Gabriel, and her trust that what the angel was saying to her was completely true, Mary immediately goes to see her cousin Elizabeth. Upon her arrival, Elizabeth is stunned that Mary has come to see her: “When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the baby in her womb leaped. She was filled with the Holy Spirit, and sang out exuberantly,

You’re so blessed among women,
    and the babe in your womb, also blessed!”(Luke 1:41-42)


Now that is a greeting! I can imagine the smile of Elizabeth’s face and the warmth in her hug, there must have been a hug involved. And Elizabeth doesn’t stop with this greeting. She goes on to say,

“Blessed woman, who believed what God said,
    believed every word would come true!” (v 45)

Elizabeth recognizes the level of belief that it took for Mary to be obedient to what God told her through the Angel Gabriel. Mary had to believe two things. One, she had to believe the truth about what God said about her, that she was loved; and two she had to believe that she was worthy to carry the son of God in her body. In verse 51-54 Mary grasps the gravity of who is in her!!! Do you? Do you believe that the same Jesus that was in Mary is also in you? Do you grasp the gravity of the reality that Christ is in you? That the same spirit that raised Jesus from the dead is in you? It is true. You and I have an opportunity to believe with the same level of belief that Mary did. She was a teenage, unwed young woman who could have been stoned to death for carrying the Son of God in her, yet she believed the truth about herself and the truth about who was inside her anyway. Do you?


Advent Week 2: Names Carry Identity

Names carry an identity of who we are. During the first week of Advent I mentioned that our pastor and friend Jack Brace and Moses Ndahiro (Rwandan friend) taught on Luke 1 to kick off the Advent season. One of the things they reminded us of is the honor, as a parent, of getting to name a child. Names are especially important in the African culture. Ndahiro kept repeating three things over and over about the impact of names, especially names with Biblical meaning:

(Each time the name is said) 1The parents would remember the truth about their child. 2That the child would always remember who they are. 3That others who proclaim their name would be proclaiming the Gospel

In Luke 1:39 the Angel Gabriel tells Mary what she is going to name her child. “And behold, you will conceive in your womb and bear a son, and you shall name him Jesus.” Not only did Mary not know she was going to be pregnant, she didn’t even get to name the kid! Apparently that was ok with her, especially since her sons name meant, “God saves.” I guess it’s hard to argue with that one.

I’ve mentioned before that our first daughter’s names came from the Lord. In the spirit of being a gentleman Anna chose if we were going to find out what we were having with our first child. Once she got pregnant the second time it was my turn to choose! I like to be surprised so we opted not to find out what we were having. This made it a little difficult to come up with a name for our second child. Since the Lord had been so clear about our first daughters’ name, I was confident that He would do the same with our second child. I was kayaking with my buddy Ryan when my wife was 7 months pregnant with our second. I didn’t set out from shore that day with the intent that I would get the name, but God spoke clearly to me just as we finishing a long day of paddling. What I heard was, “You are having a son and his name will be Elijah.” I know, this could sound a little creepy, but I am telling the truth. Once we got all of the gear out of our kayak and set up camp I headed off to a clearing with my Bible to remind myself of the biblical meaning of Elijah’s name.

After reorienting myself with the story of Elijah from 1 Kings on the paddling trip I was excited to name our second child Elijah, which means The Lord He is God! Elijah’s belief is in the Biblical story is remarkable! Over and over again he is asked to believe that the Lord is God and is in control. Elijah’s belief in action is such a wonderful model of how we can live and walk through life. Mary was asked to do the same in her conversation with Gabriel and she too believed.

After my kayak trip, with excitement about Elijah’s name, there was now only one hurdle to climb, which was similar with our daughter. I had to go home and tell Anna what happened. I agree it was a stretch, after all, we still hadn’t found out the gender and there was no plan to find out until the child breathed a first breath. Over the next two months Anna and I got more comfortable with the belief that we were having a son. We didn’t have any girl names in mind when we made our way for her to deliver the child. I was proud and my faith increased even more as I heard those words, “It’s a boy.”


Advent Week 2: Beautiful Inside and Out


 Yesterday evening our family gathered around the Christmas tree to celebrate the Second Sunday of Advent. As I watched Moriah, our oldest daughter, sing carols, then read Luke 1:26-38 I thought, Mary, the mother of Jesus wasn’t much older than our daughter when the Angel Gabriel visited her. We often read The Message bible with our kids to help them understand what is going on in the story. Check out the words that came out of Moriah’s mouth last night as she read to our family:

“Upon entering, Gabriel greeted her (Mary):

Good morning!
You’re beautiful with God’s beauty,
Beautiful inside and out!
God be with you.

She was thoroughly shaken, wondering what was behind a greeting like that.”(v.28-29)

Wow! I have read and listened to this story in Luke many, many times, but never have I noticed the incredible first greeting of Gabriel to Mary. Before Gabriel tells Mary anything about what is coming, which is really incredible news, the Angel tells her who she is. The Angel tells her that she is beautiful, beautiful inside and out! That is amazing!

What is even more amazing about the incredible greeting from Gabriel is that Mary believed it! After a little back and forth in the conversation we get this:

“And Mary said,

Yes, I see it all now: I’m the Lord’s maid, ready to serve.
Let it be with me just as you say.”(v.38)

So good! Mary believes the truth about who she is, beautiful with God beauty, beautiful inside and out, and she believes that God has a plan for her life. Do you? Man or woman reading this…beautiful can be a hard thing to interpret, specifically as a man. If you need to replace the word beautiful with loved, that works too. Either way, do you believe like Mary?