Is that song in your head as you read the title? Try it, just sing a little of the chorus. While that song is partially true, it is lie of the worst kind, because we are lead to believe that all two people need is love one another and everything will be ok. Love is not the answer though, at least love in the sense that we often think is required for marriage.
Well, if love is not the answer, then why would God design marriage? I didn’t say love is not the answer, I simply said that no matter how much or what kind of love we have for one another, it will never be “all you need.” The apostle John tells us of the “all we need kind of love”:
7 Beloved, jlet us love one another, for love is from God, and kwhoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 lAnyone who does not love does not know God, because mGod is love. 9 In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that nGod sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. 10 In this is love, onot that we have loved God nbut that he loved us and sent his Son to be pthe propitiation for our sins. 11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 qNo one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and rhis love is perfected in us.” (1 Jn 4:7-12)
Now that is a love that is more than enough. It’s not primarily about our love for one another in marriage, no, what is at the center is God’s love for us. If we will risk and truly believe that we are loved by the Father in Heaven; if we will begin to let it sink down into our heart that God is for us, that he has His best for us, that when He looks at us he sees you as holy, blameless and beyond reproach, then along with our spouse you will experience the most thrilling adventure of life: being loved my God. And by the way, the best gift that we can give one another in marriage is not love. No, the best gift that we can give each other is a growing relationship with Jesus. Because if we stay committed to that relationship, then we cannot help but believe that we are loved by God, and if you believe that, I mean really believe it, watch out, our lives and marriages will be a light to all who we encounter.